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You feel happiest when you create a healthy balance between giving and receiving. If you give and give 【小题1】w    making time to fill your own needs, then it's likely you will【小题2】b     out, or feel upset. When you take and take without giving anything back, you never feel fulfilled , so you are always 【小题3】s     for ways to fill the void in your life.
The way to create a healthy balance between giving and receiving is to know and then live by your values. I 【小题4】d     values into two groups which I call being and having values. Your being values are the personalities of the【小题5】i     person you would like to be. I suggest to my clients that they choose three being values that they are【小题6】w     to make a promise to live by. An【小题7】e     of some being values are: kind, loving, generous, peaceful, wise and even powerful. By 【小题8】a     on these values you give to others through your actions and you【小题9】i     others by being a positive role model. Mastering being these personalities bees your life 【小题10】p    .
Your having values are the feelings you need to create in order to be【小题11】h    . These could be panionship, 【小题12】a    ,support, being valued or financial security. This is what you receive. You take responsibility for filling your own needs by taking 【小题13】s     to create these feelings and conditions in your life.
When you make a promise to live by your being values, it bees easier to make conscious(慎重的) choices 【小题14】r     than reactionary(反动的) ones. If your usual pattern is to talk about your problems, you could【小题15】c     to think and act like a calm person. A calm person might go for a walk, or set a time 【小题16】l     before responding. If your usual pattern is to worry, you could choose to act【小题17】l     a responsible or wise person. In other words, you would act like the person you choose to be---this is the【小题18】k     to personal power.
　　When you choose to act on your values, you not only feel good about yourself, you【小题19】s     your chosen beliefs. Over time acting in this way changes how you see the world, and in【小题20】t     the way other people think of you.                           without