I think that the most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most 36 thing we ever give to each other is our attention (注意力). Especially if it’s 37 from the heart. When people are talking, there’s no need to do 38 but receive them. Listen to what they’re saying. Care about it. Most times 39 about it is even more important than understanding it.
One of my patients told me that when she tried to tell her story, people often 40 to tell her that they once had something just 41 that happened to her. Her pain became a story about 42 . So, finally she stopped 43 to most people because she just felt too lonely. When we interrupt what someone is 44 to let them know that we understand, we 45 the focus of attention to ourselves. But if we just 46 , they know we care. Many people with cancer can talk about the relief (宽慰) of having someone just listen.
I have 47 learned to respond to someone crying by just listening. I 48 that passing a person a tissue (面巾纸) may be just another 49 to shut them down and take them out of their experience of 50 . Now I just listen. When they have 51 all they need to cry, they find me there with them.
This 52 thing has not been that easy to learn. It certainly went against everything I had been taught since I was very 53 . I thought people listened only 54 they were too shy to speak or did not know the 55 . A loving silence often has far more power to heal than words.
【小题1】A．easyB．importantC．stupidD．terrible【小题2】A．usedB．lostC．gotD．given【小题3】A．anything B．everything C．something D．nothing【小题4】A．worrying B．plainingC．caring D．dreaming【小题5】A．decidedB．managedC．preferred D．interrupted【小题6】A．byB．like C．about D．with【小题7】A．themselvesB．ourselvesC．himselfD．yourself【小题8】A．workingB．studyingC．talkingD．smiling【小题9】A．writingB．sayingC．readingD．copying【小题10】A．learnB．stop C．leaveD．move【小题11】A．smellB．speakC．listenD．watch【小题12】A．evenB．hardlyC．earlyD．never【小题13】A．explained B．realized C．expectedD．imagined【小题14】A．questionB．touchC．loveD．way【小题15】A．regretB．happinessC．sadnessD．anger【小题16】A．criedB．shouted C．calledD．whispered【小题17】A．difficult B．simpleC．funnyD．whole【小题18】A．oldB．tallC．youngD．beautiful【小题19】A．if B．but C．or D．because【小题20】A．planB．result C．answer D．awardB
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解析：文章讲述了倾听的力量，在于别人的交流中，我们要注意倾听对方，倾听是最好的理解。
【小题1】考查形容词：A. easy容易B. important重要C. stupid愚蠢D. terrible可怕的，指我们能给对方的是我们的注意力，也就是倾听对方。选B。
【小题2】考查动词：A. used使用B. lost失去C. got得到D. given给与，这里是指尤其是发自内心的真心话，选D。
【小题3】考查不定代词：A. anything任何事B. everything一切C. something一些事情D. nothing没有什么，当对方说话时，除了倾听你不需要做任何事。选A。
【小题4】考查动词：A. worrying担心B. plaining抱怨C. caring 关心D. dreaming梦想，这里是指有时候在意别人要比理解更重要，选C
【小题5】考查动词：A. decided决定B. managed管理 C. preferred 更喜欢D. interrupted打断，这里是指她努力的讲述自己的故事，但是别人却经常打断她，选D
【小题6】考查介词：A. by通过B. like象 C. about关于 D. with和…一起，人们总是说发生了和她一样的事情。选B
【小题7】考查代词：A. themselves他们自己B. ourselves我们自己C. himself他自己D. yourself你自己，她的痛苦成了他们自己的痛苦了。选A
【小题8】考查动词：A. working工作B. studying学习C. talking谈论 D. smiling微笑，这里是自别人经常打断她，最终她就不愿意和别人交流了，选C
【小题9】考查动词：A. writing写B. saying说C. reading读D. copying模仿，这里是指当我们打断别人说话的时候，就把关注的焦点转到我们自己身上了。选B
【小题10】考查动词：A. learn学习 B. stop停止C. leave离开D. move转移，关注的焦点转到我们自己身上了。选D
【小题11】考查动词：A. smell闻B. speak 说话C. listen听D. watch观看，如果我们就是听，他们知道我们关心。选C
【小题12】考查副词：A. even甚至B. hardly几乎不C. early早D. never从不，这里是指我甚至学会用倾听对别人的哭诉做出回应，选A
【小题13】考查动词：A. explained解释 B. realized意识到C. expected期望D. imagined想象，这里是指我我意识到给别人纸巾会打断别人，选B。
【小题14】考查名词： A. question问题B. touch触摸C. love爱D. way方式，the way to do sth做…的方式。选D
【小题15】考查名词：A. regret后悔B. happiness快乐C. sadness悲伤D. anger愤怒，这里指把人们带出悲伤。选C
【小题16】考查动词：A. cried哭B. shouted 叫喊C. called打电话D. whispered低语，等他们哭完了，他们发现我一直和他们在一起，陪着他们。A
【小题17】 考查形容词：A. difficult困难B. simple简单C. funny滑稽D. whole整个，这里是指倾听别人是一种很简单的事情，但是并不容易学会。选B
【小题18】考查形容词：A. old老 B. tall高 C. young年轻 D. beautiful美丽，根据下文可知是与我小时候在学校里被教的内容不一样，选C
【小题19】考查连词：A. if如果B. but但是C. or或者D. because因为，以前我认为人们不说话是因为害羞。选D
【小题20】考查名词：A. plan计划B. result结果C. answer答案D. award奖励，以前我认为人们不说话是因为害羞，或是不知道答案。选C