If you're like a lot of married guys, you don't need to be reminded about men being from Mars or women from Venus. Chances are that you're all too familiar with the feeling that you and your wife are from different worlds. When married people start noticing their fundamental differences, it can lead to a breakdown in munication. The way to have a successful marriage is through munication, mon ground and understanding. Here are some pointers to guide you in the right direction.
Rather than ending up in an endless back and forth, forget about the issue for a minute. Instead, think about how you feel she's acting toward you and ask her if that's how she feels about you. If you think she's being unfair, ask her if she thinks you're being unfair. Switching the focus to that shared feeling can help your wife see things from your point of view.
It's important to accept the fact that there's a two-way street between you and your wife. If you think she doesn't make enough of an effort to see things from your point of view, you have to ask yourself if you're making an effort to see it her way.
Realize nobody can wave a magic wand to make you and your wife pletely understand each other all the time. Many couples have an extremely close friendship and do almost everything together before they're married. Once you've tied the knot, you may begin to notice that you're not as alike as you once thought.
It seems obvious, but some guys get fooled into thinking their wife will be as excited about all of their interests and hobbies as they are. Don't be surprised when you find out that she's not just like one of the guys. Sooner or later you'll realize that she might be going along with some of your interests just to make you happy.
Rather than feel offended if you find out she's not as into your favorite hobby as you thought, appreciate the effort she put into making you happy. Swallow your pride and try to take part in some of her hobbies, too, even if you might be a little put off at first. While you're not going to be trying on makeup with her, you could try baking a recipe together.
If either of you is always giving everything and getting nothing in return, there's going to be bitterness. The best marriages are built on promise. You knew you were going to have to give and take for your marriage to work; now it's time to make it happen.
【小题1】What is the best title of the text?A．How to manage your marriage.B．How to make a good husbandC．How to make a good wife. D．How to get her to speak your language.【小题2】 The best subtitle of the 6th paragraph is .A．Swallow your pride (at least sometimes) B．Find out her hobbiesC．Don’t get offendedD．Try to make up【小题3】Which of the following is not good for keeping a successful marriage?A．Focus on the feeling to get past the disagreement.B．Don't play the blame game.C．She won't always understand you (but that's OK).D．Try to understand each other all the way.【小题4】 According to the last paragraph, it’s important for the husband and wife to .A．forgive and forgetB．give and take C．live and let liveD．get everything and return nothing【小题5】The underlined phrase in the 6th paragraph probably mean .A．delay sthB．arrange sthC．dislike sthD．worsen sthD
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(答案→)D
解析：文章主要给出了给观点不同的婚姻双方的一些建议，从男方的视角入手，强调互相的理解与支持，才能化解矛盾。
【小题1】标题选择题。文章从男方角度入手，建议他们如何让妻子能和自己兴趣相投，化解交流障碍，所以选择D。
【小题2】标题选择题。第六段主要说的是在兴趣不相投是要学会Swallow your pride and try to take part in some of her hobbies，所以选A
【小题3】细节题。根据文章最后一段You knew you were going to have to give and take for your marriage to work可知婚姻中需要双方的妥协，一个人的努力会产生bitterness。所以选择D
【小题4】细节题。根据文章最后一段，you were going to have to give and take for your marriage to work，可知需要给予和索取才能维持正常的婚姻。选择B。
【小题5】词义推断题。根据原句，可以知道这里想说的是尝试对方的爱好，即使一开始你会…。因此合适的选项是dislike sth。选择C