Many of us mistakenly believe that it’s wrong to think we have any good qualities. We may spend a lot of time blaming ourselves for our negative qualities, thinking that self criticism is the key to improving our performance. However, a constant focus on our supposed shortings can stop our efforts to make friends with other people. How can we believe that others could like us if we believe our inner being is flawed?
If someone seems to dislike you, the reason for that dislike might have little or nothing to do with you. The person who doesn’t like you might be fearful, or shallow or busy or shy. Perhaps you and that person are simply a mismatch for each other at this particular time.
Don’t take yourself out of the game by deciding that your flaws are bigger than your good qualities. In fact, some of the very qualities you consider to be flaws may be irresistible to someone else. Although some factors that might cause one person to reject you, there are at least many factors that will work in your favor.
You might be thirty pounds over your ideal weight, but you may have a wonderful laugh and a real enthusiasm for life. There are many people who don’t mind your extra pounds. You may drive a shabby car, but you might be a great dancer and a loyal friend. There are people out there looking for loyalty, or fun, or sweetness, or wisdom, and the package it es in is not important. If you are worried that you are not beautiful enough to attract friends, keep in mind that not everyone is looking for physical beauty in their friends. You can decide to feel inferior because you don’t have much money and you don’t drive a nice car. You can believe that this is the reason
that you don’t have many friends in your life. On the other hand, if you are very wealthy you may be suspicious that everyone is after your money and that nobody really likes you as a person.
The point is that you can focus on just about anything and believe it’s the reason you do not have friends and cannot make any.
【小题1】According to the passage, plays an important role in making friends.A．admitting your shortingsB．self criticismC．modestyD．confidence【小题2】If you are not liked by a person, .A．you should find the reason in yourselfB．you’d better talk with the person face to faceC．you may not be the one to be blamedD．you and that person misunderstand each other【小题3】We can learn from the third paragraph that .A．your good qualities may make you earn more moneyB．your weakness may also be your strengths in some wayC．your negative qualities may cause you to lose friendsD．you’ll have few friends if you don’t share the same interest【小题4】 Which of the following is TRUE according to the author?A．It is important to lose weight.B．It is easier for a wealthy person to make friends.C．Inner qualities are more important than physical appearance.D．If you are not beautiful enough, try to improve your physical beauty.【小题5】What do you think the author is most likely to suggest if he continues to write?A．How to find your good qualities.B．How to make friends.C．How to make self criticism.D．How to keep fit.D
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(答案→)D
解析：本文叙述了人们也许花费很多的时间去怪罪自己的性格不好，其实你的弱点也有可能是你自己的长处，要想广交朋友必须要对自己有自信心。
【小题1】细节理解题。根据However, a constant focus on our supposed shortings can stop our efforts to make friends with other people.可以要有自信才能广交朋友，故选D。
【小题2】细节理解题。根据If someone seems to dislike you, the reason for that dislike might have little or nothing to do with you.一个人不喜欢你可能与你无关，故选C。
【小题3】细节理解题。根据In fact, some of the very qualities you consider to be flaws may be irresistible to someone else. 你的弱点也许是你的强项，故选B。
【小题4】细节理解题。根据If you are worried that you are not beautiful enough to attract friends, keep in mind that not everyone is looking for physical beauty in their friends. 内在素质比外在外表更重要的，故选C。
【小题5】推理判断题。根据The point is that you can focus on just about anything and believe it’s the reason you do not have friends and cannot make any.可推知不要只看到自己的不足，还应找到自己的好的品质，那么如何找到自己好的品质，就是下文要叙述的内容，故选A。