阅读理解Ifyouwanttoteachyourchildrenhow

阅读理解If you want to teach your children how to say sorry, you must be good at saying it yourself, especially to your own children. But how you say it can be quite tricky.  If you say to your children I'm sorry I got angry with you, but … what follows that but can make the apology ineffective: I had a bad day or your noise was giving me a headache leaves the person who has been injured feeling that he should be apologizing for his bad behavior in expecting an apology. Another method by which people appear to apologize without actually doing so is to say I'm sorry you're upset; this suggests that you are somehow at fault for allowing yourself to get upset by what the other person has done. Then there is the general, all covering apology, which avoids the necessity of identifying a specific act that was particularly hurtful or insulting, and which the person who is apologizing should promise never to do again. Saying I'm useless as a parent does not mit a person to any specific improvement. These pseudo(假的)-apologies are used by people who believe saying sorry shows weakness. Parents who wish to teach their children to apologize should see it as a sign of strength, and therefore not resort to these pseudo-apologies. But even when presented with examples of contrition（悔悟）, children still need help to bee aware of the plexities of saying sorry. A three-year-old boy might need help in understanding that other children feel pain just as he does, and that hitting a playmate over the head with a heavy toy requires an apology. A six-year-old boy might need reminding that spoiling other children's expectations can require an apology. A 12-year-old might need to be shown that taking the biscuit tin without asking permission is acceptable, but that borrowing a parent's clothes without permission is not.1.If a mother adds but to an apology, _______. A.she doesn't feel that she should have apologizedB.she does not realize that the child has been hurtC.the child may find the apology easier to acceptD.the child may feel that he owes her an apology2.According to the author, saying I'm sorry you're upset most probably means _______. A.You have good reason to get upsetB.I'm aware you're upset, but I'm not to blameC.I apologize for hurting your feelingsD.I'm at fault for making you upset3.It is not advisable to use the general, all-covering apology because _______. A.it gets one into the habit of making empty promisesB.it may make the other person feel guiltyC.it is vague and ineffectiveD.it is hurtful and insulting4.We learn from the last paragraph that in teaching children to say sorry _______. A.the plexities involved should be ignoredB.their ages should be taken into thinkingC.parents need to set them a good exampleD.parents should be patient and tolerant5.It can be inferred from the passage that apologizing properly is _______. A.a social issue calling for immediate attention  B.not necessary among family membersC.a sign of social progress                   D.not as simple as it seems