We often focus on building relationships with others that we forget the essential first st

We often focus on building relationships with others that we forget the essential first step: being friends of ourselves.     【小题1】    . How can we have good relationships with others if we don’t even have good relationships with ourselves?
The problem might be worse than we expect. Maybe we don’t like ourselves without realizing it. Here is a simple checklist: Is there anything you don’t like about yourself from these lists?    
Your past:  Maybe you have made mistakes in the past which you feel bad about.     【小题2】    . Even if that happened in distant past, your subconscious mind still has a reason not to like yourself.
Your background:  You might wish that you were born in different family, or that you have different background.     【小题3】    . They seem to get whatever they want effortlessly because of their background.
Your personal traits(特点):  You might have some personality traits that you don’t like. For example, you may be an introvert(内向) and you don’t like it; you wish you were an extrovert.
Others might have better achievements than you, and no matter how hard you tried, it might seem impossible for you to match them.     【小题4】    . Is there anything that resonate(产生共鸣) with you? All these give reasons to you not to like yourself. That in turn makes it difficult for you to be a good friend to yourself.
    【小题5】    . Here are some tips:
Forgive yourself
Accept things you can’t change
Focus on your strengths
Write your success stories
Stop paring yourself with others
Always be true to yourselfA．That is the crucial(关键) first step if we are to have good relationships with othersB．You might then think that it’s because you are not smart enough or don’t have enough talentsC．You can do something to improve the relationships with othersD．Fortunately, there are always things you can do to fix the situationE. You might be disappointed with yourself on why you make such mistakes
F. Sometimes you might not believe yourself
G. Maybe you could not accept the fact that you are not as lucky as othersA