You have the ability to decide if you are happy or not. Happiness is a choice.
You can't depend on someone else to make you happy. That is a lesson I learned early on in my marriage. I realized that I couldn't rely on my husband as my source of happiness. I learned that my happiness depended on me and not my husband's actions. I learned that you have to choose to be happy.
You can choose your emotions. True happiness es from within; it can't be forced by outside forces. So how do you choose happiness? The same way you choose to smile or choose to wear a certain outfit. You choose it because that's what you want to experience in your life.
You want to buy a new pair of shoes so you choose a pair that you like and feel good. You wouldn't buy a pair of shoes that you don't like or that don't fit well, right? So why do we keep choosing emotions and feelings that don't make us feel good?
Choosing to be happy after you realize your anger has shown up (or even choosing to be calm) can be beneficial. We choose our feelings; no one can do that for us. If we let others get to us, influence our emotions ---we are giving them power over us. When others cause us anger or pain, we are giving them our power.
We need to keep our feelings in check and not react automatically to what is thrown at us. We need to think our actions out instead of just reacting to what someone says or does.
Remember that we can always choose happiness. At first it will be difficult to just switch your thoughts and feelings from anger, self-doubt, or fear to joy and happiness. But it is only a thought away. Don't dwell on what happens to you unnecessarily but realize what is causing you to feel that way. Realize that thoughts, feelings and emotions can change. Then move on and choose to be happy.
【小题1】What’s the best title of this passage?A．Choose to Be HappyB．Pretend to Be HappC．Choose Your EmotionsD．Find Happiness【小题2】The lesson the writer learned in her marriage is .A．balancing the relationship between the husband and wife is an artB．one can’t rely on someone else to make himself or herself happy C．she can depend on her husband to find happinessD．happiness can be influenced by outside forces【小题3】Why did the writer mention buying shoes?A．To offer advice on how to choose fortable shoes.B．To pare choosing shoes and choosing an outfit.C．To help to move to the next paragraph easily.D．To use it as an example to show the importance of choosing to be happy.【小题4】The writer suggests that we should .A．hold back our feelings properlyB．let others control our feelingsC．respond immediately to others’ wordsD．pay more attention to words than actionsA
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(答案→)A
解析：决定开心与否的权力掌握在你自己手中，开心是一种选择。一个人可以选择自己的心情，同时，他还要学会控制自己的情感，有选择性地去表达那些让我们觉得快乐的情感。
【小题1】根据“You have the ability to decide if you are happy or not. Happiness is a choice. ...I learned that you have to choose to be happy. ...You can choose your emotions. ...Choosing to be happy after you realize your anger has shown up ...Remember that we can always choose happiness.”可知，文章讲的是“选择开心”，开心其实是一种选择，故选A。
【小题2】根据第二段“You can't depend on someone else to make you happy. That is a lesson I learned early on in my marriage.”可知，作者从婚姻中学到的是“一个人不能依靠他人而获得快乐”，故选B。
【小题3】根据第三段“The same way you choose to smile or choose to wear a certain outfit. You choose it because that's what you want to experience in your life.”和第四段“So why do we keep choosing emotions and feelings that don't make us feel good?”可知，作者举买鞋子的例子是为了说明，心情和感受也是可以选择的，我们应该选择那些让我们开心的情绪，故选D。
【小题4】根据倒数第二段“We need to keep our feelings in check and not react automatically to what is thrown at us. We need to think our actions out instead of just reacting to what someone says or does.”可知，我们需要控制我们的情感，应该先经过思考再作出行动，故选A。