For many parents , raising a teenager is like fighting a long war, but years go by without any clear winner. Like a border conflict between neighboring countries, the parent-teen war is about boundaries: Where is the line between what I control and what you do?
Both sides want peace, but neither feels it has any power to stop the conflict. In part, this is because neither is willing to admit any responsibility for starting it. From the parents’ point of view, the only cause of their fight is their adolescents’ plete unreasonableness. And of course, the teens see it in exactly the same way, except oppositely. Both feel trapped.
In this article, I’ll describe three no-win situations that monly arise between teens and parents and then suggest some ways out of the trap. The first no-win situation is quarrels over unimportant things. Examples include the color of the teen’s hair, the cleanliness of the bedroom, the preferred style of clothing, the child’s failure to eat a good breakfast before school, or his tendency to sleep until noon on the weekends. Second, blaming, the goal of a blaming battle is to make the other admit that his bad attitude is the reason why everything goes wrong. Third, needing to be right, it doesn’t matter what the topic is----politics, the laws of physics, or the proper way to break an egg ----the point of these arguments is to prove that you are right and the other person is wrong, for both wish to be considered an authority ---- someone who actually knows something ---- and therefore to mand respect. Unfortunately, as long as parents and teens continue to assume that they know more than the other, they’ll continue to fight these battles forever and never make any real progress.
【小题1】Why does the author pare the parent-teen war to a border conflict?A．both can continue for generations.B．both are about where to draw the line. C．Neither has any clear winner. D．Neither can be put to an end.【小题2】What does the underlined part in Paragraph 2 mean?A．The teens blame their parents for starting the conflict.B．The teens agree with their parents on the cause of the conflict. C．The teens accuse their parents of misleading them. D．The teens tend to have a full understanding of their parents.【小题3】Parents and teens want to be right because they want to .A．give orders to the otherB．know more than the other C．gain respect from the otherD．get the other to behave properly【小题4】What will the author most probably discuss in the paragraph that follows?A．Causes for the parent-teen conflicts. B．Examples of the parent-teen war. C．Solutions for the parent-teen problems.D．Future of the parent-teen relationship.B
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(答案→)B
解析：对许多父母来说，抚养孩子就像打一场持久战，但经过长年累月的战斗，依然分不出胜负。家长--孩子间的战争，就像边界之争一样，都是要确定自己的活动范围。
【小题1】根据第一段“Like a border conflict between neighboring countries, the parent-teen war is
about boundaries: Where is the line between what I control and what you do?”可知，父母和孩子之间的战争就像边界之争，故选B。
【小题2】“... the teens see it in exactly the same way, except oppositely.”要解释句子的意思，需要参照前后句，根据the same way，说明前文已有提示，进一步找到关键信息：
“... neither is willing to admit any responsibility for starting it. From the parents' point of view, the only cause of their fight is their adolescents' plete unreasonableness. (双方都不愿承认应对冲突的起因负责。父母认为他们和子女间的冲突的唯一起因是子女的不可理喻。)”由此可知，
“... the teens see it in exactly the same way, except oppositely.”的意思是：子女对此事的看法也是如此，只是恰恰相反，他们认为父母的不可理喻才是冲突的起因。故选A。
【小题3】根据题干划定原文的相关信息范围为：
“... the point of these arguments is to prove that you are right and the other person is wrong, for both wish to be considered an authority—someone who actually knows something—and therefore to mand respect.”该句中的for作为因果连词，与题干中的because是对应的，正确选项应该是对
both wish to be considered an authority ... respect的同义解释，与选项C (gain respect from the other)正好匹配。故选C。
【小题4】文章的大致结构是先提出问题，再分析问题，后面一个段落应该就是解决问题。原文第三段说 “In this article. I’ll describe three no-win situations that monly
arise between teens and parents and then suggest some ways out of the trap. ”清楚地说明了文章的结构，先分类阐述家长与孩子之间矛盾的三种情况，然后给出解决方法。故选C。