The key to a good interpersonal relationship is simple once you understand the role that needs play in making a relationship weak, moderate, average, or strong.
A person who fails in a relationship is someone who neglects the needs of his or her partner. So the first step to establish a successful relationship is to find out what needs the other person has. It is also very important to understand your own needs so that you can help the other person in the relationship to meet your needs.
Unfortunately, not only do many people fail to see or to understand their partner’s needs, but they do not understand their own. Children have wonderful relationships with their parents as long as their needs are being satisfied. When the needs are not satisfied, the relationship changes and problems arise. As a child grows, needs change; it is necessary that parents recognize these changes. As it is with the child to the parents, it is also with the parents to the child.
The way to recognize the needs of other people is by their responses to you. When you do or say something and you get a positive response, you are well on the way to being recognized. The same goes for you. What is it that you respond to in a positive manner? What do you feel good about getting and about doing? What are you totally guiltless about? What can you do with plete confidence and fearlessness? What emotional scene can you control without fear or guilt? Look in these areas for your needs and you will in all probability find your answers.
As stated, our own needs are often hidden. The techniques covered in the power of self-mind control will allow you to discover your needs and show you who you are in regard to interpersonal relationships. Your effectiveness in influencing and dealing with people will greatly increase the power of self-mind control.
【小题1】From the passage we learn that .A．it is hard to make good interpersonal relationshipsB．there are several levels of relationships among peopleC．the success of different interpersonal relationships can be measured by needsD．the first step to establish a successful relationship is to know your own needs【小题2】According to Paragraph 2, the most important factor in dealing with people is to .A．be kind to them and help themB．only think of their needsC．find out both your needs and theirsD．learn some interpersonal techniques【小题3】Which of the following statements is NOT mentioned in the passage? A．A child’s needs change with his growth.B．A child should also know his parents’ needs.C．It’s easier to find your own needs than to find others’.D．You can learn what others need by their responses to you.【小题4】The last two paragraphs are written mainly to tell us .A．why some people fail in a relationshipB．how to increase the power of self-mind controlC．why our needs are often hiddenD．how to recognize others’ needs and yoursB
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(答案→)B
解析：A
本文主要讲述了人与人之间的关系，强调要处理好人际关系，我们必须要了解自己和他人的需要。
【小题1】根据文中的信息作出判断推理。根据第一段 … making a relationship weak, moderate, average, or strong可知，答案为B。
【小题2】根据文中的信息作出判断推理。根据第二段So the first step … It is also very important to understand your own needs … 可推测，处理好人际关系最重要的是要了解双方的需要。
【小题3】根据文中的信息作出判断推理。根据第三段As a child grows, needs change … 可知A项符合文意；根据第三段As it is with the child to the parents … 可以推测B项符合文意；根据第四段The way to recognize the needs of other people is by their responses to you可推测D项也是正确的。只有C项在文中没有提到，故答案为C。
【小题4】判断作者的写作目的。这两段的目的是告诉我们怎样发现他人和自己的需要，故答案为D。