In order to improve relationship with others, you need to be aware of several sensible ways to plain. 1 , you need to be specific. Don’t say, “Boy, did you 2 like a fool at the party?” Instead, say, “You embarrassed me by getting 3 and loud and telling offensive jokes to my parents.” Secondly, stick to the present. Don’t mention old offences from last month or last year. By doing this, you 4 attention from the problem at hand. Moreover, 5 you plain, don’t add insults. If you start calling the other person names, that will 6 create anger and hurt any chance of getting the person to really 7 you. A last point to remember is to plain privately. Never criticize the other person in front of friends, parents, children, or anyone else, for that 8 . Criticizing in front of a third party has the same effect as 9 . This shames the person being criticized and makes it very likely that the person will want to attack you orally rather than listen to you.
Sensible ways to Complain:
Be specific
Stick to the present
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Complain privately
【小题1】1.A．To start withB．Frankly speakingC．AnywayD．Needless to say【小题2】A．conductB．playC．doD．act【小题3】A．upsetB．boredC．delightedD．drunk【小题4】A．take awayB．set offC．draw upD．catch up【小题5】A．beforeB．afterC．whenD．unless【小题6】A．evenB．neverC．onlyD．still【小题7】A．listen toB．work forC．look afterD．wait on【小题8】A．timeB．matterC．personD．party【小题9】A．jokesB．insultsC．criticismD．embarrassment【小题10】A．Don’t add insultsB．Don’t mention old offensesC．Don’t lose temperD．Don’t tell embarrassing jokesA
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本文作者论述怎样发牢骚，在生活中我们不要直接的朝别人抱怨，要讲究方法，作者给我们提出几条建议，大家不妨试试。
【小题1】考查语境的理解。从上下文分析知道，这里是作者提到的第一个建议，所以用To start with表示“首先”；frankly speaking坦白地说；anyway无论如何, 总之；needless to say不必说。
【小题2】考查形动词词意辨析和语境的理解。从语境知道表示在宴会上的行为，表现。
【小题3】。考查形容词词意辨析和语境的理解。从上文说道的宴会和下文的不礼貌举止，知道是喝醉了。
【小题4】考查动词词组意思辨析和语境的理解。take away 取走；set off出发, 动身, 使爆炸, 引起,；draw up草拟, 停住；catch up追上, 吸住。从语境知道，当谈论现在的事情时，最好不要涉及到以前的事，因为那样会分散对手头上事情的注意力。
【小题5】考查连词词意辨析和语境的理解。从上下文知道这里表示时间，即：当抱怨时，不要侮辱人。
【小题6】考查副词词意辨析和语境的理解。如果你在抱怨时，开口骂对方，将仅仅增加愤怒和失去别人聆听你的话的机会。
【小题7】考查动词词组意思辨析和语境的理解。综合上文，这里表示“听”。
【小题8】考查固定搭配和语境的理解。for that matter (=for the matter of that)关于那一点, 就此而言, 对此, 就那件事而论。
【小题9】考查名词词意辨析和语境的理解。在第三者面前批评别人等于在骂他。
【小题10】考查语境的理解。这里是对上文建议的总结，从整体文章的大意以及上面的总结：形式要特殊；只说现在的事情；私下抱怨，可以推测这里是说“不要有辱骂性的语言”。