You must have been troubled by when to say I love you because it is one of the greatest puzzles in our life.
What if you say it first and your partner doesn’t love you back? Or if they do say it but you don’t feel they mean it? Being the first to declare your love can be never racking (紧张) and risky and can leave you feeling as vulnerable as a turtle with no shell. But is the person who says it first really in a position of weakness? Doesn’t it pay to hold back, play it cool and wait until the other half has shown their hand faster?
“A really good relationship should be about being fair and being equal,” says psychologist Sidney Crown. “But love is seldom equal.” “All relationships go through power struggles but,” he says, “if a love imbalance continues for years, the rot will set in.” That feeling of “I’ve always loved you more” may be subverted (颠覆，破坏) for a time, but it never goes away pletely and it often emerges in squabbling (大声争吵). In love, at least, the silent, withholding type is not always the most powerful. “The strongest one in a relationship is often the person who feels confident enough to talk about their feelings,” says educational psychologist Ingrid Collins. Psychosexual therapist Paula Hall agrees. The one with the upper hand is often the person who takes the initiative.” In fact, the person who says “I love you” first may also be the one who says “I’m bored with you’ first.” Hall believes that much depends on how I love you is said and the motivation of the person saying it. Is it said when they’re drunk? Is it said before their partner flies off on holiday, and what it really means is “Please don’ t be unfaithful to me” ? By saying “I love you”, they are really saying “Do you love me?” If so, wouldn’t it just be more honest to say that. Collins agrees that intention is everything. It’s not what is said, but how it’s said. What it es down to is the sincerity of the speaker.”
【小题1】What is the main idea of this passage?A．The importance of I love you B．The meaning of I love youC．The time of saying I love you.D．The place of saying I love you【小题2】In the first sentence the author means that .A．it is easy to say I love youB．it is hard to say I love youC．we have many troubles in our lifeD．people usually do not know when to say I love you【小题3】According to the expert, a good relationship should be .A．fair and equal B．fair and kindC．powerful and equalD．confident and fair【小题4】In the third paragraph, the phrase with the upper hand means .A．being low in spirit B．having only one handC．being activeD．being passive【小题5】What is the most important for you to consider when somebody say I love you to you?A．The intention.B．The place.C．The time.D．The determination.C
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(答案→)C
解析：
【小题1】这篇文章主要讲述的是说“我爱你”的时机，是采取主动还是处于被动，以及说话者的动机。
【小题2】“You must have been troubled by when to say ‘I love you’ because it is one of the greatest puzzles in our life.”也就是说人们为何时说“我爱你”而烦恼。
【小题3】见第三段的“A really good relationship should be about being fair and being equal”。
【小题4】此题是词义解析，意思是“占了上风”。
【小题5】从第三段末考林的话语中可以分析出来是你的动机决定一切。“重要的不在于说话内容而在于说话的方式。归根到底是说话人的真诚。”