Who’s in control of your life? Who is pulling your string? For the majority of us, it’s other people—society, colleagues, friend, family or our religious munity. We learned this way of operating when we were very young, of course. We were brainwashed. We discovered that feeling important and feeling accepted was a nice experience and so we learned to do everything we could to make other people like us.
So when people tell us how wonderful we are, it makes us feel good. We long for this good feeling like a drug—we are addicted to (沉溺于) it and seek it out wherever we can. Therefore, we are so eager for the approval of others that we live unhappy and limited lives, failing to do the things we really want to. Just as drug addicts and alcoholics live worsened lives to keep getting their fix (一剂毒品), we worsen our own existence to get our own constant fix of approval.
But just as with any drug, there is a price to pay. The price of the approval drug is freedom—the freedom to be ourselves. The truth is that we cannot control what other people think. People have their own agenda（心思，计谋）, and they e with their own baggage and, in the end, they’re more interested in themselves than in you. Furthermore, if we try to live by the opinions of others, we will build our life on sinking sand. Everyone has a different way of thinking, and people change their opinions all the time. The person who tries to please everyone will only end up getting exhausted and probably pleasing no one in the process.
So how can we take back control? I think there’s only one way—make a conscious decision to stop caring what other people think. We should guide ourselves by means of a set of values—not values imposed（强加） from the outside by others, but innate values which e from within. If we are driven by these values and not by the changing opinions and value system of others, we will live a more authentic, effective, purposeful and happy life.
(Note: Answer the questions in NO MORE THAN TWELVE WORDS.)
【小题1】What happens to people if they care too much for the approval of others?
【小题2】The price of the approval of others is
【小题3】Why is it unreliable for us to live by the opinions of others?
【小题4】What’s the main idea of this article? They are likely to live unhappy and limit lives./They will live unhappy and limit lives.
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(答案→)They are likely to live unhappy and limit lives./They will live unhappy and limit lives.
解析：文章阐述了我们不应该太在意别人的观点，得到别人同意的代价是我们自己的自由，我们应该不要在乎别人的想法来控制我们的生活
【小题1】细节题：从第二段的句子：Therefore, we are so eager for the approval of others that we live unhappy and limited lives, failing to do the things we really want to.可知太在意别人的感受使我们生活的不快乐，受到限制，They are likely to live unhappy and limit lives./They will live unhappy and limit lives.
【小题2】细节题：从第三段的句子：The price of the approval drug is freedom—the freedom to be ourselves. 可知得到别人同意的代价是我们自己的自由：The freedom to be ourselves.
【小题3】细节题：从第三段的句子：Everyone has a different way of thinking, and people change their opinions all the time. 可知人们一直在改变想法，所以依照别人的观点生活是不现实的：Because people change their opinions all the time.
【小题4】主旨题：从最后一段的句子：If we are driven by these values and not by the changing opinions and value system of others, we will live a more authentic, effective, purposeful and happy life.可知我们应该不要在乎别人的想法来控制我们的生活： We should take control of our lives by stopping caring other’s thoughts.