【intimacy】帮忙翻译一下Intimacyiskeyinaworldofconnectionwhere....

帮忙翻译一下Intimacy is key in a world ofconnection where individuals negotiate plex networks of friendship,minimize(减少) differences, try to reachagreement, and avoid the appearance of superiority, which would highlightdifferences. In a word of status, independence is key, because a primary meansof establishing status is to tell others what to do, and taking orders is amarker of low status. Though all humans need both intimacy and independence,women tend to focus on the first and men on the second. It as if theirlifeblood ran in different directions. Thesedifferences can give women and men differing views of the same situation, asthey did in the case of a couple I will call Linda and Josh. When Josh’s oldhigh-school friend called him at work and announced he’d be in town on businessthe following month, Josh invited him to stay for the weekend.Thatevening he informed Linda that they were going to have a houseguest, and thathe and his friend would go out together the first night to chat like old times.Linda was upset. She was going to be away on business the week before, and the Fridaynight when Josh would be out with his friend would be her first night home. Butwhat upset her the most was that Josh had made these plans on his own andinformed her of them, rather than discussing them with her before extending theinvitation. Linda would never make plans, for a weekendor an evening, without first checking with Josh. She can’t understand why hedoesn’t show her the same courtesy and consideration that she shows him. Butwhen she protests, Josh says, “I can’t say to my friend, ‘I have to ask my wifefor permission’!” To Josh, checking with his wife means seekingpermission, which implies that he is not independent, not free to act on hisown. It would make him feel like a child. To Linda, checking with her husbandhas nothing to do with permission. She assumes that spouses discuss their planswith each other because their lives are interviewed, so the actions of one haveconsequences for the other. Not only dose Linda not mind telling someone, “Ihave to check with Josh”; quite the contrary--- she likes it. It makes her feelgood to know and show that she in involved with someone, that her life is boundup with someone else’s. Linda and Josh both felt more upset by thisincident, and others like it, than seemed warranted(给…以正当理由),because it cut to the core of their primacy concerns. Linda was hurt becauseshe sensed a failure of closeness in their relationship: He didn’t care abouther as much as she cared about him. And he was hurt because he felt she wastrying to control him and limit his freedom. 英语