I suspect that the most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our 36 , and especially if it’s given from the 37 . When people are talking, there’s no need to do anything but 38 them. Just take them 39 . Listen to what they’re saying. Care about it. Most times caring about it is even more important than 40 it.
One of my patients told me that when she 41 to tell her story, people often 42 to tell her that they had once had something just like that happen to her. Subtly her pain became a story about themselves. 43 she stopped talking to most people. It was just too 44 . We connect through listening. When we interrupt what someone is saying to let them know that we understand, we move the 45 of attention to ourselves. But when we listen, they know we care.
I have ever learned to 46 to someone crying by just listening. In the old days I used to reach for the tissues(纸巾) 47 I realized that passing a person a tissue may be just another way to shut them 48 , to take them out of their 49 of sadness and pain. Now I just listen. When they have cried all they need to cry, they find me there 50 them.
This 51 thing has not been that easy to learn. It certainly went against everything I had been 52 since I was very young at school. I thought people listened only because they were too 53 to speak or did not know the answer. A loving silence often has far more 54 to connect than the most well-intentioned 55 .
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解析：文章讲述了倾听的力量，在于别人的交流中，我们要注意倾听对方，倾听是最好的理解。
【小题1】C 名词辨析。A介绍；B要求；C注意力；D放松；指我们能给对方的是我们的注意力，也就是倾听对方。
【小题2】D 名词辨析。这里是指尤其是对方所说不是发自内心的真心话，这个时候更要倾听，要理解对方的真正意思。
【小题3】B 上下文串联。文章讨论的就是倾听。当对方说话时，你需要做的就是认真倾听。
【小题4】A 固定词组。Take in理解。这里是指要理解他们。
【小题5】D 词义辨析。这里是指有时候在意别人要比理解更重要，你注意倾听别人就是一种在意的表现。
【小题6】B 词义辨析。这里是指她努力的讲述自己的故事，但是别人却经常打断她，让她感觉非常不好。
【小题7】B 动词辨析。解析同上。
【小题8】A 副词辨析。这里是自别人经常打断她，最终她就不愿意和别人交流了，这让她更加孤单。
【小题9】C 形容词辨析。解析同上。
【小题10】B 名词辨析。Focus焦点。这里是指当我们打断别人的时候，就把关注的焦点转到我们自己身上了。
【小题11】A 动词辨析。这里是指学会用倾听对别人的哭诉做出回应。
【小题12】C 连词辨析。这里是指我经常伸手去拿纸巾直到我意识到给别人纸巾会打断别人，让别人不愿意再讲述。
【小题13】A 动词短语。Shut down闭嘴。这里是指让别人不再说话。
【小题14】D 名词辨析。这里是指让他们从悲伤和痛苦的的经历中走出来。
【小题15】A 介词辨析。这里是指他们发现我一直和他们在一起，陪着他们。
【小题16】B 形容词辨析。这里是指倾听别人是一种很简单的事情，但是并不容易学会。
【小题17】C 动词辨析。根据下文可知是与我小时候在学校里被教的内容不一样，以前我认为人们不说话是因为害羞。
【小题18】A 形容词辨析。解析同上。
【小题19】C 名词辨析。这里是指安静也就是倾听比别的话有更强大的力量。
【小题20】D 名词辨析。解析同上。