Just listen
I suspect that the most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our 36 , and especially if it’s given from the 37 . When people are talking, there’s no need to do anything but 38 them. Just take them 39 . Listen to what they’re saying. Care about it. Most times caring about it is even more important than 40 it.
One of my patients told me that when she 41 to tell her story, people often 42 to tell her that they had once had something just like what happened to her. Subtly, her pain became a story about themselves. 43 she stopped talking to most people. It was just too 44 . We connect through listening. When we interrupt what someone is saying to let them know that we understand, we move the 45 of attention to ourselves. But when we listen, they know we care.
I have ever learned to 46 to someone crying by just listening. In the old days I used to reach for the tissues(纸巾) 47 I realized that passing a person a tissue may be just another way to shut them 48 , to take them out of their 49 of sadness and pain. Now I just listen. When they have cried all they need to cry, they find me there 50 them.
This 51 thing has not been that easy to learn. It certainly went against everything I had been 52 since I was very young at school. I thought people listened only because they were too 53 to speak or did not know the answer. A loving silence often has far more 54 to connect than the most well-intentioned(善意的) 55 .
【小题1】A．introductionB．instructionC．attentionD．relaxation【小题2】A．headB．memoryC．mindD．heart【小题3】A．talk toB．listen toC．object to(反对)D．stick to(坚持)【小题4】A．in B．upC．offD．away【小题5】A．denying(否认)B．rememberingC．questioningD．understanding【小题6】A．managedB．triedC．hopedD．expected【小题7】A．encouragedB．interruptedC．discouragedD．urged【小题8】A．EventuallyB．ImmediatelyC．CompletelyD．Especially【小题9】A．impoliteB．meaninglessC．lonelyD．selfish【小题10】A．middleB．focusC．centerD．choice【小题11】A．respondB．pareC．linkD．regret【小题12】A．unlessB．ifC．untilD．when【小题13】A．downB．awayC．inD．off【小题14】A．experimentB．mixtureC．judgmentD．experience【小题15】A．withB．againstC．forD．among【小题16】A．plex(费解的)B．simpleC．singleD．plicated(复杂的)【小题17】A．mentionedB．publishedC．taughtD．proved【小题18】A．shyB．greedyC．activeD．proud【小题19】A．strengthB．energyC．powerD．force【小题20】A．gesturesB．praiseC．criticismD．wordsC
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(答案→)C
解析：本文讲述了在人与人的交往中，倾听有时候比语言更有有力，告诉我们要学会倾听别人。
【小题1】C 名词辨析。A介绍B说明C注意力D放松；我们能给对方就是我们的注意力。
【小题2】D 名词辨析。A头B记忆C思维D心；尤其是发自内容的对别人的注意，这样更可贵。
【小题3】B 短语辨析。A谈论B听C反对D坚持；除了听，别得什么都不需要做。
【小题4】A 固定词组.take in吸收，理解，欺骗；这里是指我们需要的就是理解对方。
【小题5】D 动词辨析。A否认B记得C询问D理解；很多时候关心比理解更重要。
【小题6】B 动词辨析。A设法B尝试C希望D期待；我的一个病人努力告诉别人他的故事…
【小题7】B 动词辨析。A鼓励B打断C使…泄气D催促；但是别人经常打断他的话。
【小题8】A 副词辨析。A最后B立刻C完全地D尤其；最后他什么都不愿意和别人说了。
【小题9】C 上下文串联。他什么也不愿意和别人说了，这样让自己很孤单很寂寞。
【小题10】B 名词辨析。Focus是指焦点；我们把注意力的焦点移到了我们自己的身上了。
【小题11】A 动词辨析。A回应B比较C联系D遗憾；我曾经学着用听来回应别人。
【小题12】C 连词辨析。直到那时我才知道给别人纸巾也是一个让别人不要哭的方式之一。
【小题13】A 固定词组。Shut down闭嘴，这里是指给别人递了纸巾让别人不再哭泣。
【小题14】D 名词辨析。A实验B混合物C判断D经历；把他们从他们悲惨难受的经历中带出来。
【小题15】A 介词辨析。他们会发现我们和他们在一起。With和…一起。
【小题16】B 形容词辨析。A费解的B简单C单个D复杂的；这种简单的事情并不好学。
【小题17】C 动词辨析。A提及B印刷C教D证明；这和我小时候一直被教的事情是相反的。
【小题18】A 形容词辨析。A害羞B贪婪C积极D自豪；他们可能太害羞或者是不知道答案。
【小题19】C 名词辨析。A力气B能源C力量D暴力；有时候善于的倾听要比语言更有力。
【小题20】D 名词辨析。A姿态B表扬C批评D语言；有时候善于的倾听要比语言更有力。