Every family with kids has seen its share of arguments, shouting and plaining. It turns out that all those conflicts serve an important purpose in the development of children . Saying “no” followed by a bad temper, just may be an unavoidable part of growing up. And that’s a good thing. These are the first steps toward independence. Even young children have to challenge their parents sometimes. Studies have shown the following:
·Although stressful, conflicts are beneficial for children.
·Learning to manage conflicts is necessary for a child’s development.
·Conflicts during the preschool years occur because children desire more attention than parents can or should give.
If you understand why conflicts occur, it can minimize the conflicts between you and your children. Conflict is a child’s attempt to develop a sense of self and how he or she learns to express his or her needs and ideas. Parents develop and drive this independence by putting children to the outside world both formally and informally.
Conflicts can grow out of a difference of opinion or might just be a way to blow off steam(发脾气). In rare situations, constant conflicts between parents and children can indicate a deeper emotional problem. Consult your doctor if this seems to be your situation.
It’s important to offer your child choices, which should be determined by age and developmental level. The more responsible a child is, the more choices he or she gets in reward. You can threaten your child with punishment, but often offering a choice will better improve angry situations. Consequences and rewards should have some meaning to your child.
Often a child’s adverse(敌对的)reaction when he or she hears the word “no” can be avoided by giving the child an explanation as to why you have refused his or her request.
【小题1】The intended readers of this passage are .A．parentsB．doctorsC．teachersD．children【小题2】By saying that's a good thing in Paragraph 1, the author means .A．children behave politelyB．children try being independentC．parents control their feelings wellD．parents understand their children【小题3】If a 3-year-old boy challenges his parents angrily, according to studies, he may .A．feel being overlooked by his parents.B．get tired of being looked after by his parents.C．want to stay with his parents at any time.D．be blamed by his parents for his faults.【小题4】In most cases ,the conflicts between parents and their children .A．lead to more misunderstandingsB．doesn't really mean a deep emotional problemC．is an important choiceD．involve visiting doctors【小题5】What can be concluded from the passage?A．Children understand what their parents think of clearly.B．Children enjoy giving their opinions by conflicting with their parents.C．Most parents would rather punish their children than reward them.D．Communication can reduce conflicts between parents and children.A
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(答案→)A
解析：试题分析:
【小题1】这是一道推断题。全文围绕父母和孩子的矛盾展开，并着重向父母们分析了孩子产生抵触情绪的原因、意义等，因此C项正确
【小题2】这是一道猜测词义题。只有B项解释针对性地照应了下文，即“These are the first steps toward independence.”
【小题3】这是一道推断题。根据“Conflicts during the preschool years occur because children desire more attention than parents can or should give”可知A项正确。
【小题4】这是一道细节题。B项与文中“In rare situations，constant conflict...”语义一致。
【小题5】这是一道推断题。从该文末段可知，父母针对性的解释可以避免和孩子产生摩擦，因此D项推论成立。