When you meet someone for the first time, you will form an impression in your mind of that person in the first moment. Your reactions to other people, however, are really just barometers (晴雨表) for how you perceive(理解) yourself. Your reactions to others say more about you than they do about others. You cannot really love or hate something about another unless it reflects something you love or hate yourself. We are usually drawn to those who are most like us and tend to dislike those who display those aspects of ourselves that we dislike.
Therefore, you can allow others to be the mirror to illuminate (阐明;照亮) more clearly your own feelings of self-worth. Conversely, you can view the people you judge negatively as mirrors to show you what you are not accepting about yourself.
To survive together peacefully with others, you will need to learn tolerance. A big challenge is to shift your perspective from judgment of others to a lifelong exploration of yourself. Your task is to assess all the decisions, judgments you make onto others and to begin to view them as clues to how you can heal yourself and bee whole.
Several days ago I had a business lunch with a man who displayed objectionable table manners. My first reaction was to judge him as rude and his table manners as annoying. When I noticed that I was judging him, I stopped and asked myself what I was feeling. I discovered that I was embarrassed to be seen with someone who was chewing with his mouth open and loudly blowing his nose. I was astonished to find how much I cared about how the other people in the restaurant perceived me.
Remember that your judgment of someone will not serve as a protective shield against you being like him. Just because I judge my lunch partner as rude does not prevent me from ever looking or acting like him. In the same way, extending tolerance to him would not cause me to suddenly begin chewing my food with my mouth open.
When you approach life in this manner, those with whom you have the greatest dissatisfactions as well as those you admire and love can be seen as mirrors, guiding you to discover parts of yourself that you reject and to embrace your greatest quality.
【小题1】The purpose of the author writing this passage is to advise people to .A．avoid inappropriate mannersB．learn tolerance towards othersC．pay attention to others’ needs and feelings D．judge others favorably in any case【小题2】The underlined word “objectionable” in Paragraph 4 has the closest meaning to .A．discouragingB．disappointingC．disgustingD．disturbing【小题3】According to the passage, the following statements are all true except .A．You can’t really love or hate others if they are similar to you.B．We are easily attracted by someone who is similar to us.C．Our first judgment of a person mostly es from our personal opinion.D．The moment we see a stranger, our mind forms an impression of that person.【小题4】It can be implied from the text that .A．the writer’s first reaction to the man was to judge him as offensiveB．we will need to learn tolerance to co-exist with othersC．we shouldn’t focus on judging others but should constantly reflect on our ownD．the writer didn’t care about other people’s view of himB
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(答案→)B
解析：本文讲述了我们不喜欢的人的身上有很多我们不喜欢我们自己的地方。这些我们喜欢还是不喜欢的地方都反应出我们自己的性格的很多方面，我们不要总是去判断别人，而是要反思我们自己。
【小题1】B 主旨大意题。本文讲述了我们不喜欢的人的身上有很多我们不喜欢我们自己的地方。根据文章倒数第二段In the same way, extending tolerance to him would not cause me to suddenly begin chewing my food with my mouth open.以及文章最后一句guiding you to discover parts of yourself that you reject and to embrace your greatest quality.都告诉我们要学会容忍和接纳。故B正确。
【小题2】C 推理题。根据第三段1,2行Several days ago I had a business lunch with a man who displayed objectionable table manners. My first reaction was to judge him as rude and his table manners as annoying.可知我认为他是一个在餐桌上没有礼貌的人，他的餐桌礼仪是让人厌恶的，和前面后面的annoying.是近义词。故C正确。
【小题3】A 推理题。根据文章第一段最后2行We are usually drawn to those who are most like us and tend to dislike those who display those aspects of ourselves that we dislike.说明我们喜欢那些和我们有很多相似之处的人，不喜欢那些和我们有很多的差异的人。故A项的说法是错误的。
【小题4】C 推断题。根据倒数第二段前3行Remember that your judgment of someone will not serve as a protective shield against you being like him. Just because I judge my lunch partner as rude does not prevent me from ever looking or acting like him.可知我们不要总是去判断别人，而是要反思我们自己。因为在我们不喜欢的人的身上有很多我们的所不喜欢的自己的性格的反应。故C正确。