For many years there's been a debate about rewarding our children. Does it work? Is it effective?
Some people think we should establish a standard with our kids and give them something for meeting this standard as a reward. Punishment is given out in much the same way, but it’s used when certain standards of performance, behavior, etc. have not been met. Kids will often bee more dutiful when threatened with punishment, and work harder when promised a valuable reward. The problem is what happens when you aren’t around.
To develop responsible, self-disciplined kids, parents need to promote certain ideas. One of these ideas is that everyone pitches in and helps in your family. Another idea is that there can be enjoyment in doing any task if we choose to make it so. When a task is for a worthy cause (our family can enjoy the house more because I helped clean it), this message can have a big impact.
This is how we help our kids develop a sense of responsibility. When our children develop this responsibility, they’ll be more disciplined, and they’ll control their emotions better. When we give rewards to our kids, we reduce the sense of responsibility. We also create children who may temporarily perform to a certain standard, but who aren’t likely to continue the performance without the carrot hanging in front of them.
“Rewards and punishment can change behavior for a while, but they cannot change the person who engages in the behavior,” said Alfie Kohn, author of Punished by Rewards. “Good values have to be grown from the inside out.” Parents can help give their children a sense of shared responsibility and discipline which can last a life time. The real rewards that your children receive will be their readiness for the plex and demanding world that waits for them—a world that rewards those who have learned the secrets of discipline responsibility. So keep those shiny rewarding to yourself, and let your kids find their own rewards.
【小题1】According to the passage, when children are threatened with punishment, .A．they may lose interest in their workB．the results will be worse than usualC．they may change to another personD．they may appear to be well-behaved【小题2】The underlined part “the carrot” in Paragraph 4 probably refers to .A．apologiesB．aimsC．rewardsD．doubts【小题3】According to the passage, Alfie Kohn would agree that parents should .A．never pay attention to the way their children do thingsB．show their children how to behave by exampleC．help their children establish good valuesD．never punish their children【小题4】What’s the best title for the passage?A．Should parents reward their children?B．Do you often reward your children?C．When should parents reward their children?D．What can parents reward their children with?D
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(答案→)D
解析：文章讲述了父母该如何奖励孩子的话题。并提出父母应该帮助孩子设立正确的价值观。
【小题1】D 推理题。根据第二段第四行Kids will often bee more dutiful when threatened with punishment说明在收到威胁的时候，孩子们更有责任心，表现更好，故D正确。
【小题2】C 推理题。根据本句We also create children who may temporarily perform to a certain standard, but who aren’t likely to continue the performance without the carrot hanging in front of them.说明这些孩子只能暂时表现很好，没有了carrot就不可能继续有好的表现，故carrot指奖励。故C正确。
【小题3】C 推理题。根据最后一段3,4,5行Parents can help give their children a sense of shared responsibility and discipline which can last a life time说明作为父母要帮助孩子建立责任感和纪律意识，即良好的价值观，故C正确。
【小题4】A 主旨大意题。文章在主题段第一段就提出了父母该不该奖励孩子？该如何奖励孩子的问题，故A正确。